Is There Such a Thing as Perfect Timing?
I was married when I was 25 years old. It was one of those relationships that I knew something wasn’t quite right. He would have mood swings and isolate himself, not really communicating at all. Three years into the marriage I went to church one Sunday and there was a guest speaker. After the service he began to pray over people and minister to them. My dad pushed me forward and I started to weep. I was desperate and I was hungry to hear from the Lord. You know what happens when you are desperate? God shows up.
The speaker walked by and stopped in front of me. He told me to stop my crying that God had a plan. I was going to have 3 beautiful children and I was going to be so happy that I wouldn’t be able to contain myself. Well I stopped crying! And I turned to my dad and said… Well, I think he delivered that message to the wrong person. You see, I had no intention of ever having children with my husband. When I realized the issues he had, I went into mourning. I mourned the fact that I would never be a mother, I would never bring a child into that destruction. I never gave up hope, but I mourned it none the less.
7 years later. 7 years. Seems like a really long time doesn’t it? We had just celebrated our 10 year anniversary. My husband was addicted to video games and we hardly ever spoke. He was addicted to many other things during the course of our marriage but the final thing was the games. He would spend at least 20 hours a day playing, never sleeping at night, never taking a shower and rarely getting out of his clothes. He would call in sick to work to play. One night he flew into a rage and destroyed our house. He put holes in the walls, broke the tile, every glass he could find, even broke the kitchen sink. If you’ve ever dealt with video game addiction, it is extremely intense. Science shows that your brain looks the same as if you were on heroin. You’re willing to lose everything to play one more raid. He moved out and we were in counseling. I was still hanging on to my marriage and I had the best counselor. She knew this relationship was not good for me. She asked me, what will it take for you to leave? I told her that I couldn’t leave, I had made a promise and I couldn’t break it. She said why don’t we pray about that. She asked God to help make the decision for me. My husband walked in the door, sat down in the counseling office and told me he wanted a divorce. He didn’t want to have to choose between the video games and our marriage, so he chose the games. Through my complete anguish, I thanked God that I did not have to live with that guilt that the decision was made for me and I could begin to heal.
I took a year and really focused on making myself happy and I did. I felt so happy that I really did not see myself getting married again. I didn’t date anyone. I met my husband as friends. We did things in groups of people as friends. Neither one of us was looking for a relationship beyond friendship. I suppose God had other plans…
One day he asked me if I would consider having children. I told him about the Pastor who had spoken over me. Fast forward another year and we were leaving on the plane to our destination wedding. Would you believe who was a passenger on our plane? The Pastor that spoke over me 10 years before. He knew my husband and his family. I could not believe it!
We were married and conceived our daughter on our wedding night. 3 years later we had our son on our Anniversary. My family started and was completed on the same day. You see, when God gives a miracle… he leaves no doubt. We have our family and its beautiful. (I wasn’t going to add this but I figured someone may notice. We did end up conceiving 3 beautiful children but we lost one of them. I have no doubt I will hold my baby again one day).
God’s timing isn’t always our timing. But if you walk with him, he is always faithful to give you what he promised you.
I’m giving my husband this watch on the 6th year Anniversary of the day he walked into my life as a reminder that God’s timing is indeed PERFECT.
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